From the Editor's keyboard By Lynda Duffy firstname.lastname@example.org Musings, thoughts and ideas from Lynda Duffy, editor of Williams/Grand Canyon News.
Friday, November 7, 2008
Cash is a great gift
Lynda Duffy Former Editor
This past Sunday, I shocked my husband once again. His mom called to confirm that my mom's birthday is Saturday. It is.
He asked what we would be doing to honor my mom, and I said I hadn't figured that out yet. Usually I call around to see what everyone's schedule is like, and then make plans. Typically, we pick a day, I cook and everyone comes over. That wasn't a shocker for him ... that's what we've done the last 24 years we've been married.
"What are you going to get her?" he asked. "Are you going shopping with her or are you going to surprise her?"
"We went shopping a few weeks ago and bought a few things she liked. And, I'm giving her cash," I replied.
This was a shocker for him.
He thinks giving someone cash ... especially your own mother ... is rude.
It's not. Mom and I have done this forever. I also do this with other family members consistently, especially the last 10 years or more.
It's simple. My parents' home has everything they need, and much more. Their closets are stuffed, too. And my dad's workshop is full of tools we've purchased him throughout the years. At their age (only 20 years our senior), they have everything they need. If they want something, they just go buy it. We've reached that point, too. Plus, all our tastes are radically different. So, for us, it's best to save our time and money and give each other cash to pursue a personal treat or accessory that we might not purchase for ourselves.
Impersonal? Not! We've just reached another level of life. I'm not 10-years-old anymore trying to save up for a birthday gift for Mom from K-Mart. And, my mom has raised us right and now has ample money just for her. That's the way life should be. No apologies. Happy birthday, Mom!