From the Editor's keyboard By Lynda Duffy firstname.lastname@example.org Musings, thoughts and ideas from Lynda Duffy, editor of Williams/Grand Canyon News.
Thursday, October 2, 2008
A kind heart is one that should be treasured
Lynda Duffy Former Editor
Several months ago, a couple that we have been friends with for quite some time told us that they were likely headed for divorce. We spent an evening with them, witnessing the pain and distrust that existed between them. Twenty-five years is a long time to be married. We've lasted 24.
What I witnessed disturbed me and hurt my heart. How can one fall out of love with a soul mate? Does it happen overnight? Does it fester several years? How? I would be devastated if this happened to me.
In the end, I vowed to be kinder to those closest to me. I resolved to be gentler, quieter and slower with my temper.
I reflected on how I treat others. Ironically, I can be nice to everyone I encounter throughout the day - even if it's a bad day - and then go home and be downright mean to those I live with. I know that I'm not alone. I vowed that I would change. I'm still working towards this goal even months later. I'm a work in progress.
Within days, my husband noticed a difference. Knowing that I'd just visited my physician, he sent me an e-mail asking me if I were on "happy pills," because I seemed different, more pleasant, and even a little extra giggly. I let him know that this is a natural high, a new me and shared my reflections.
I'm still progressing. I have started to reach out to even strangers that serve me meals in restaurants and those from whom I purchase food, clothing, etc. It's working.
Just yesterday, I was chatting it up with a checker at a store. I'd never met her. She told me I was nice and thanked me. She asked if I get "sparklies" at Christmastime. I told her, "no," and briefly explained that I am resolving to be a more positive, kinder person.
She said that was funny, since she was just thinking the same thing a few days earlier. People are so mean anymore, she shared.
"We talk down to each other. It's just not right," she said.
She's right. A heart can never be too kind. What condition is your heart in? Do you have a happy heart? If so, congratulations. If not, perhaps it's time to seek change rather than suffer inside. Life is too short.