From the Editor's keyboard By Lynda Duffy firstname.lastname@example.org Musings, thoughts and ideas from Lynda Duffy, editor of Williams/Grand Canyon News.
Monday, March 22, 2010
It's your choice - just walk away
Lynda Duffy Former Editor
Winter can feel oh, so gloomy. And this winter has been a doozy! We've received record amounts of snowfall, which will greatly help our drought. But, it's been tough, too. Two weeks ago, everyone seemed to be slouching around town; too much snow, not enough sunshine. This past week, we all enjoyed the sunshine. Well, some of us.
Spring arrived this weekend, and I hope everyone's mood improves soon. I'm still finding myself surrounded by folks willing to pick a fight over anything and everything. To protect my spirit, I'm selectively detaching myself from them.
All of us have folks in our lives that cannot do anything minus drama; even purchasing an apple results in them having long, drawn-out fights with others. And they use the "S" word - "so" - in every conversation they have when they are talking about confrontations in which they placed an $8 per hour employee in their place. Here is an example (one I made up to demonstrate my point) ...
"So, I went to the store to buy one apple. One apple. The first apple I picked up was bruised. So. I marched over to the person stocking the apples and showed them the bruise. They said, 'Grab another apple.' So, I did, and it was bruised, too. So, I thought, 'This is ridiculous. I refuse to pay for bruised apples.' So, then I demanded that person be fired on the spot and asked for a supervisor. I told the supervisor about the two bruised apples and how unacceptable this is. And he just looked at me. I was so mad I left the store without purchasing anything. Everyone there is so stupid."
Well, who looks stupid now? Yeah. The person who could not successfully purchase one, non-bruised apple, all because they were too good (in their small mind anyway) to continue seeking the perfect apple minus assistance. And that is what I'm detaching myself from.
Unfortunately, anyone that has a job interacts with folks such as these daily, if not in person, then over the Internet or phone. It's not always pleasant attempting to resolve matters that can possibly make the customer happy. That's just part of the job.
However, in our personal lives, we can walk away from the storytellers. We do not have to listen to the blow-by-blow account from one side. We can walk away. While it can be difficult, in the end, you will feel much better. You will relish the fact that you took advantage of the opportunity to walk away, leaving the storyteller wondering why you were not outraged or even interested in what they had to say. That is an awesome feeling! Life is too short to do otherwise.